I think it goes without saying most of us are not working in our dream job setting, especially now that we are living in a post pandemic society that truly brought to light what we mean to our employers- or for most of us how expendable we are. There is a crusade of defectors redefining what it means to be a cog in the wheel and setting boundaries where there were none before. If you’re anything like me you know you won’t do this forever and you hardly find the courage to pour that 4th cup of coffee to mend your cracked smile. Maybe it is just me, but before we go too far down that rabbit hole I want to fill you with hope. You are the master of your own story and how people perceive you is your greatest lesson to finding success no matter what chapter of your career you find yourself while reading this. This is your hack to being glamorous and full of poise in a world built to chew you up and spit you out. Welcome friends.
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Rule number 1: You own your emotions
We always hear that saying that goes a little something like “ You control how you respond to a situation”. While I used to roll my eyes while grinding my teeth at the last rude customer who told me off in the most Karen-like of ways, I can say now with certainty this is in fact true.
No one can make you feel anything that you don’t give yourself permission to feel. Imagine you are rubber and they’re glue and repeat after me “Everything you say bounces off me and sticks to you.” Remember that gem from childhood? Use it! Just keep this in mind, you have the power to deflect negativity and turn it into passion and drive. Change your fuel source and you will be unstoppable. This takes some self-talk and I won’t lie and say it’s easy. I am a firm believer in daily affirmations. Hell, sometimes I need 7 affirmations a day. The point is, no one can make you feel anything you don’t permit. Let it bounce off of you and keep that smile in your eyes my beauties. Sweetness and light am I right??
Rule #2: Be Poised
You are an intelligent person with beautiful thoughts and opinions. You have power by being authentically, you. Remember integrity and being poised go hand in hand. Never let the bad boss or rude client break your stature.
I used to find myself slumped over my computer, hand on chin literally shrinking from the verbal and mental abuse of a sales job. If this reminds you of someone..let me say this. Keep your standards high, take the damn lunch. Go for a walk on your break and remember why you are where you are. Meet their high standards with yours and watch the respect that bows at your feet. What is the purpose? Maybe this job is a means to an end like it has been for me, but do it with poise and elegance that cannot be matched. Hold your head high and you will find your power again. In fact, you’ll step right into it like your most comfortable stilettos.
Rule #3: Forgive where you can
Forgiveness isn’t easy and a bad work environment can easily spread like a virus that bleeds into other areas of your life. I know, I’ve been there one too many times. Let me ask you this: Do you think your boss goes home and talks about how guilty they feel for not giving you that raise you deserved but didn’t ask for or the hours of voluntary time you spent on a project only to say it’s the nature of the beast? Sadly, they don’t. Sometimes even the most streamlined job can feel like a pyramid scheme, one we are more comfortable accepting.
Forgive yourself for not asking for more, forgive your greedy employer for putting their needs before yours and your families. Remember your worth. It is a hard lesson to learn but you must let the anger and resentment go. The more you dwell the more it will come back to you and magnify. Take a deep breath every hour if you have to and remember this is a temporary experience and what you learn from this now will only help you become who you are meant to be. Who you already are: A beautiful co-creator. You can have anything you want but first you have to believe it and that comes with forgiveness and letting go.
Takeaway
Being glamorous doesn’t only mean you have every new gadget or glitzy bag to mask the hard truths of life. Glamour comes from within first. Think it through, envision, then create. Watch how quickly your reality morphs into something much better and well deserved. And guess what else? It’s contagious! Spread the word.